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I want to share with you Wise words from my wife for marriage., she spoke to me a couple of days ago. They had a profound impact on my life and the light finally “clicked” inside my brain. I am not sharing this with you to seem like a superman or a hero. I share this with you in the hope that it may help your marriage and relationship with your wife.
First of all, I am a normal guy who got “married”. We have 5 children ranging from 9 months to 9 years. Obviously, I did something right to stay married after 10 years, but is it enough?
Here is the question. Why did my wife feel the need to share her timeless wisdom with me? I mean look at everything I do on the list below and tell myself it’s not good enough. shouldn’t she “feel the love” With all these things I do for her?
A list of my daily contributions to the family (of course, my wife does all of these things too)
– Provide for the Family.
– Put a roof over their heads.
– I bought him a nice vehicle to drive.
– Feed everyone breakfast every day and get them ready for school.
– Take our girls to preschool.
– Prepare lunch for everyone.
– Prepare dinner for everyone.
– Wash the dishes.
-Take out the garbage and recycle.
– Feed the dog and cat.
– Clean all children before bedtime.
– etc.
Alright, so you get the point. I do a lot of things. Isn’t that good enough? Shouldn’t I feel love? You might think so… I know I did. (That may sound like a lot of things I do, by the way, but my wife actually does triple that… so I can’t brag.)
So after several weeks of my wife giving me hints like, “Can you hang out with me?” “Do you want to be with me?” “What are you going to do tonight?” “Do you want to do something together?” (Perhaps his wife has asked him questions like this. If so, she is a RED FLAG that’s her “love tank” it is empty. This means that you have to take action. But how?)
Once my wife realized that I didn’t understand it, after I explained all the things I do for the family and she didn’t understand WHY my wife didn’t “feel loved”. This is what she said. (Here are my wife’s words of wisdom for marriage.)
“Honey, I love you and appreciate all that you do. I know you love me and our family. You are an amazing provider and a good man. But here’s the thing. There are roles as a mother and father that we must TO HAVE TO DO to contribute to the family. (like my list above). BUT then there is us as husband and wife. What have you done lately to show me that you personally love me? I know you’ve done all these amazing things, but when was the last time you did something specifically for me?
Practical things my wife wanted from me
It didn’t have to be anything big…
– just a little text here and there throughout the day to let me know you’re thinking of me.
– just stopping for a minute when you walk into the room to greet me and tell me you love me.
– just a little hug and kiss here and there throughout the day (and not the hug and kiss that leads to you know what!)
– a phone call throughout the day to tell me that you love me and that you were thinking of me.
– and I really appreciate the great thing you did for me over a week ago, but honestly I’d rather you consistently do little things every day instead of one big thing every other month.”
My response to my wife’s wise words
OH!
That hurts!
She is correct!
How in the world did I miss that?
We have this great family, we’ve been blessed with a nice home, food in our bellies, and we have our daily PARENT chores to keep the family going… but what about my wife and I?
So what did I do after my wife shared her heart with me?
listen Wise words from my wife for marriage.. Although it is HARD! I listened and then I acted. It wasn’t hard because I felt compelled to love her. I love her with all my heart. It was difficult because I have to find creative ways to “physically show her that I love her through my words and actions.” Simply doing all of my Father’s responsibilities is not enough.
Now, to my surprise, it seemed that when I took his words of wisdom and applied them, things started to get easier. I was full of joy. The children seemed to be happy and not too involved. The job was easier. I felt better. We were both happy together as husband and wife.
Please take my wife’s words of wisdom for marriage
So here it is, if your wife hasn’t told you… she’s thinking about it. You have to show her how much you love her. Think about how he felt about her before and on her wedding day. Remember how she was the only thing you could think about and you couldn’t focus on anything else. Think of all the things that attracted you to her in the first place. Then make sure she knows how special she is.
It may be easier said than done, but it is not. This is something you have to do… You MUST do if you want to maintain a strong marriage and fulfill your wife’s wishes. And trust me, you will reap what you see. I know you might be thinking, “What about my wishes?” “Why don’t you appreciate everything I do?”
But trust me on this… you, as the leader of your family and your wife, need to lead by example. If your wife feels love, she won’t mind if you watch the game on Sunday. She won’t mind if you work a little harder if you have to. yeshe will KNOW that she is loved and that will make all the difference in the world. If possible, I would recommend setting up a date night with your wife once a week. Treat that moment as if your life depended on it. They BOTH need their time together more than they think.
conclusion
Now, my wife’s words of wisdom for marriage may not seem that important, but they are! And when I say that “you” need to do these things, I’m also talking to myself. There are many broken and broken marriages in this world, because men are too proud to lead by example and focus too much on things that are not as important as we think they are. Let’s change that!