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Good guys will invariably ask themselves this question at one time or another:
“I’m a nice guy, so why do all the jerks get women and I’m stuck being alone?”
Sometimes it’s easy to believe that jerks have some sort of magical power that allows them to trick women into liking them and somehow make them stick around while treating them like dirt.
This happens SO MUCH, that some men believe they actually have to BECOME jerks in order for women to be attracted to them.
But make no mistake about it: nobody likes a jerk. Not even the women who date them! So if that’s the case, why is it obvious that they get so many girls to go for them?
Well, remember that Jerk’s tend to pass quickly by a lot of women. Most girls will only put up with jerk behavior for so long before they get sick of it. And those who stay have such low self-esteem that they have formed some kind of strange attachment to the emotional abuse that idiots do.
That being said, there are a number of things idiots do to attract women that make them effective seducers and pick-up artists. And these are things that the “nice guys” can do and get the same results.
Here are the top 5 things jerks do to get women, and how you can do them too, WITHOUT becoming a jerk…
1. Jerks are self-centered
One of the great things about a jerk is that they don’t really care about other people. In fact, his attention is focused almost entirely on his own pleasures, thoughts, and feelings.
So when he sees something he wants, he goes after it!
When the average “nice guy” sees a hot girl, they might be intimidated. He wants her to like him. He wants her approval. In short, he cares what she thinks!
But besides that, most guys also care what other people think! They worry that a girl will reject them in front of other people, and what those people will think when they see it happen.
Idiots don’t have this problem. They don’t care what other people think. The Jerk only focuses on getting what he wants.
When you allow yourself to focus on your goals and let go of fears of being judged by others, this gives you a great deal of focus, and as we all know, focus is KEY to achieving what we desire.
2. Jerks aren’t afraid to approach women.
The number one step to winning over a woman is the act of approaching and talking to her.
A lot of guys just don’t. Whether out of shyness or intimidation, they don’t. Instead they just hover around her and gawk at her like idiots, hoping the cods will know her.
Idiots don’t hesitate to approach a girl. They don’t care if you’re going to like them or not, because they DON’T CARE.
They’re thinking about how hot it’s going to be to make out with her. They are thinking about how much fun it will be to take her to bed. The LAST thing on her mind is “fear of rejection.”
For a jerk, if a girl rejects him, there is something wrong with HER, not him. Nice guys will say “Oh, I’m too ugly, he doesn’t like me.” Idiots will say “That bitch is a total lesbian.”
Just being able to walk up to a girl and start talking to her puts the jerk at an advantage, because he’s interacting with the girl, and the “nice guy” isn’t. For the girl, the good boy does not exist!
That’s why women often have such a low opinion of men, because it’s always the Idiots who approach women while the shy ones sit in the corner!
The idiots realize that it’s not the woman’s job to get close to the guy. If you want something, you have to go after it.
So if Nice Guys started walking and talking to women, they would be surprised to find that most women WELCOME to their company and really want to meet a nice guy to treat them right.
3. Assholes don’t censor themselves.
Part of the reason Jerk seems fun, interesting, or exciting is because they’re not worried about offending anyone. They’ll talk about anything, joke about anything, and even tackle “sensitive” topics of conversation without batting an eyelash.
Too many “nice guys” hold back when talking to a girl they like. They NEVER mention sex. They don’t even joke about it. Heck, they don’t even show any sign of LIKE the girl.
Because of this, the Nice Guys become Boring Guys.
The jerk will come, make a colorful joke, tell the girl a cheeky story, and even MOCK the girl!
He couldn’t care less if he offends anyone. To the idiot, he’s just doing what comes naturally. Attitudes like this are like a breath of fresh air for many women, because they mistake it for “confidence.”
As this goes on, the more they realize that this jerk is not so much trusting as he is narcissistic. And he just doesn’t care about others.
However, good guys can learn a lot from these idiots. If you let go of the people-pleasing attitude, relax, and create some attraction, you’ll go much further. After that, they can reveal their caring side to you.
4. Idiots are honest about what they want.
An idiot will approach a woman with no intention of hiding his desires. He will flirt, desire her, and try to get her into bed that night.
The girl knows IMMEDIATELY what the jerk wants, and after he’s made it clear to her, it’s up to her to decide if she wants to give it to him.
If not, the Jerk goes ahead and finds another girl. If so, then the idiot takes her hand and drags her away.
This kind of honesty is really appreciated by women. In contrast, you have the nice guys trying to blend in by being an asexual “friend.” He hangs out, listens to the girl’s problems, tries to help her when she needs it, and then all of a sudden tells her that she’s deeply in love with her!
And the girl FACES.
The reason for this is that the “nice guy”, by trying not to get rejected quickly by misrepresenting his intentions, has basically built a relationship with the girl based on LIES.
And because of that, the girl has already identified him as a “friend”.
So when the guy wants to be “more than friends,” the girl feels betrayed, because she’s gotten used to thinking of him in a certain way, and now he demands that she look at him in a different way.
(Not surprisingly, soon after this happens, most girls stop being “friends” with the guy!)
Good guys should make their intentions clear from the start. Flirt with a girl. Let her know that you like her and that you want to date her! If she turns you down, keep going until you find a girl who likes what you have to offer.
Idiots do this and guess what? It works for them!
5. Jerk safeguards your self-esteem.
Too often, being rejected by a girl will send a “nice guy” into a spiral of depression. His self-esteem will hit rock bottom, and he will become depressed and withdrawn for the rest of the night.
Jerk’s does not suffer from this problem. They guard their self-esteem viciously and don’t let rejection get them down.
That’s why idiots are idiots! Because they WILL completely IGNORE rejection, and will even go so far as to belittle and ridicule other people to feel more important than they are.
This constant protection of their self-esteem allows them to continue pursuing their goals by not allowing them to fall into a depression.
And no matter how you look at it, a guy with high self-esteem is always much more attractive to women than a depressed loser.
For the average nice guy, it’s important not to take rejection personally. If a girl doesn’t like you, it doesn’t mean you’re not attractive, cool or interesting, it just means that girl is not right for you!
So you keep looking for one that is, and you don’t stop until you find it.
Rejection can be difficult for anyone to handle. But remember to keep a positive outlook. Instead of looking at it as “losing a girl”, think of it as “I just eliminated a girl who would have wasted my time if she went after her.”
You don’t need to ridicule or talk down others to feel good about yourself like idiots do, but you do need to protect your self-esteem as viciously as possible, because that will help you move on.
Understand: Picking up women is a numbers game. The more women you meet, the more likely you are to land one! Jerk succeeds due to his tenacity and ability to play with numbers. Nice guys go for one or two women a night while jerks hit 20-30.
It all comes down to 5 behaviors that allow them to do this!
Just remember, you don’t need to be a jerk to get women. You just have to go after what you want.