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It has been utter devastation after learning of his wife’s shocking confession of marital infidelity. The mental and emotional anguish from this has propelled you to a new level of anger and jealousy. His testosterone, adrenaline and blood pressure levels have risen to new heights and his life is like a psychological thriller. But countless sleepless nights, anxiety attacks, and bad thoughts are just not a way to live. How can you get over this, or even make the decision to forgive, forget, leave, or stay when you can’t get the images of your wife’s betrayal out of your head? Every time you look at it, you see them together. He is in your place, with your wife, the other half of you. Obviously, this is a scene that I would rather not repeat. So how do you get these distorted images out of your head?
Acceptance
The reality of the matter is that it happened. There is nothing you can do to deny that it was not. No matter how visual or explicit the images are, it was his wife and the other man. The truth is the truth. Do yourself a favor and don’t ask for vivid details. Hopefully there is no physical evidence to support your dilemma, for example text messages, videos, pictures.
Forget the other man
Moving on would be easier to deal with if the man is not someone you know! In that sense, avoid asking who the other man was. On the other hand, if it really is someone close to you, you should confess it. This information will help you make a decision. Whether you are an acquaintance or not, do not make the mistake of comparing yourself to his transgression. It will help if you think of him as a complete stranger, no matter what he has been to your wife. Yes, this thought process is easier said than done, but it will be effective.
Get your ego under control
As simple as it sounds, think of this man as an ex boyfriend. After all, if you weren’t your wife’s first love, she already had ex-lovers to compare you to. Also, if the affair was not sexual but emotional, the images will be easier to discard. Focus on fixing or improving what you said was missing rather than just the sexual offense.
Eventually you would have to make the decision to leave or stay. If you look at this betrayal spiritually, the Bible states that sexual infidelity is the only valid reason for a couple to divorce. But if you decide to stay, you must fight the good fight of faith. Marriage should not be taken lightly, nor should divorce. However, it takes a strong and loving man to stay committed after such a tragic event.