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I remember when I discovered the seduction community.
I found this great ‘system’ that could take me from the initial introduction to sleeping with a girl and I had the whole plan laid out…
It all started with the denial of women. So I learned a few lines, went out to the local bars and clubs, ridiculously excited about all the hot girls I would soon be sleeping with… and quickly proceeded to offend half the girls in town.
If this story sounds familiar to you, then you are in the right place.
I personally don’t like any of the seduction community terms like ‘deny’; they sound weird and nerdy, like some kind of Dungeons and Dragons game or something.
I prefer the idea of banter, and that is one place that will give you much more success with women. The idea of denial is essentially giving a girl an indirect compliment, like ‘nice nails, are they real?’
The girl then feels the need to qualify herself for you, thus putting you on a pedestal and trying to impress you. But so goes the theory.
The problem with this is that there is a fine line between this and simply insulting women. In fact, I spent 6 months of my life dating and insulting women without even realizing it. It was only when they steadily walked away after 10 minutes or so that I stopped and took an honest look at what was really going on.
Here’s how to correct the problem:
1) Focus on a back-and-forth joke, rather than backhanded compliments
The idea is that you tease her slightly and she jokes back. There should be a back and forth feeling, where both of you can feel a tension in the air, and that tension increases the more you joke around.
This is basic flirting 101. You should both be enjoying the interaction and laughing at each other’s witty jokes. Compare this to just walking up to her and being offensive.
2) When you start asking him questions about relationship style, stop joking around.
This was another sticking point for me for a long time.
The problem is that making a woman laugh is very addictive, so you repeat the funny lines over and over again. She thinks ‘this guy is funny, I want to know more about him’, so she says ‘where are you from?’
But he just answers with a joke line instead of answering the question. She tries again ‘what are you doing?’ She responds again with a witty retort. Eventually she gets fed up and thinks ‘I can’t connect with this guy’ and she leaves.
It’s too bad, because all you had to do was answer her questions normally at the time and have a simple conversation with her to show that you’re a normal guy.
So give this easy 2-step process a try and see how it goes for you!