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Abrasive Personalities 101: Are you friends with people who constantly drain your energy, both in obvious and subtle ways? Various types of people will wear you down or discourage you from your path of extreme self-care. People with abrasive personalities will slowly but surely take your life. So be careful!
The Guilty.
This abrasive person constantly blames you and/or everyone else for their problems. Nothing seems to be his fault. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person, and instead of taking responsibility for his life, he prefers to blame others. Nothing goes right for this person, or if he ever does come up with something good, he’ll just put it aside and wait for the next big problem.
The complainant.
The complainer likes to hear his own voice. He constantly complains about what isn’t working in his life, and yet he gets energy from complaining and taking his frustrations out on you. He is up to date on your family problems, financial problems, and all other problems that he may encounter. Bad vibes all the time. This abrasive personality type’s biggest conversation is with himself, but he always likes an audience, and sadly that’s you.
The wringer.
So you start your day with the biggest smile on your face, then you meet your abrasive friend who just sucks the life out of you. He is the person in need who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice or whatever he needs to feel better in the moment. Due to the need for him, the conversation often revolves around his, and you can almost feel your life being taken away during the conversation. This becomes a problem as this abrasive personality never takes into consideration the effect that being too needy has on you.
The Shameful.
A friend should be your biggest fan. The embarrassing can be dangerous for the health of him. The shamer may cut you off, belittle you, scold you, or make fun of your ideas in front of others. He often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that his criticism is for your own good. He is the kind of abrasive person who makes you question your own sanity before his.
The Discounter.
This kind of abrasive personality often, if not all the time. discounts or challenges everything you say. You often have a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. Having a conversation with the discount store can be exhausting, so you eventually end up giving in and deciding to just listen.
The gossip.
People talk about other people during conversations to avoid talking about themselves. That is exactly what this abrasive personality does. Gossip gets its energy from the airing of stories, opinions, and the latest “scoop.” By gossiping about others, you create a lack of security in your relationships, whether you realize it or not. After all, if he talks about another person, he will talk about you.
There are a thousand and one reasons why you’re sticking it out with your so-called friend. Either way, if you decide to keep your friend an abrasive personality, just make sure you know how to handle it. And don’t let them rule your life. After all, you can only take so much, and you can only be a friend for so long.