Many women want to know, “what is appropriate dating behavior for a Christian woman? Are there really do’s and don’ts for dating while safe?” If you’re even pondering this, I’d like to give you a hug and a high-five personally just for asking this question! Your curiosity around this theme simply means: you care about two things: your relationship with God and your relationship with your friend.

Unfortunately, not enough women think that way. Many believe that being a Christian doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have standards that differ from the world when it comes to dating. “Why can’t I just go out and have fun?” they say. While there’s nothing wrong with having a good time, I truly and wholeheartedly believe that firm standards for your relationship are a must. Because? Because, as God-fearing women, everything we do must uphold a godly standard. We must always consider where we are going, what we are doing, what we are looking at, and who we are mixing with.

For example: being in the wrong atmosphere with a man can easily turn things in the wrong direction. If he’s inviting you to see a movie that you know is full of inappropriate scenes and at 10 pm, your red flag should go up immediately. For many women, this exact scenario has resulted in a teary-eyed ride home with a prayer beginning with, “Lord, what have I done?” I am sharing with you today how you can avoid such pitfalls by recognizing what is and what is not appropriate.

Even if you enjoy wholesome movies with that special someone, you may want to watch them during the day and in an appropriate setting, not alone. Be honest with yourself. If the day you are scheduled to see a movie you feel In fact attracted to him, don’t. You don’t want to set yourself up for failure. remember the writing James 4:7what does it say “Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

What about the romance?

Romance seems to be the biggest question when it comes to dating. Can we have romance? Should we want romantic treatment from guys when we are single? Well, here’s the scoop, ladies.

If you are dating a guy who is naturally romantic; Since he constantly does the sweetest things to win your affection, make sure his intentions are pure. Granted, some guys are naturally romantic. You know, the guys who know how to shower their women with elegant gifts, dozens of roses, chocolates, bears, jewelry, I mean, the works. And that’s sweet. But again, make sure his intentions are not to con you into inappropriate situations. Most guys are smarter than we give them credit for!

And, if you’re in a moment of vulnerability and he’s showering you with these beautiful displays of love and affection, you can easily get caught up in it and feel like you owe him something. I urge you not to feel that way. Instead, say thank you. Be firm about a standard of purity in your relationship with him, and make sure he knows that he can give him all the gifts he wants, but he won’t bow to any inappropriate thanks.

The green Zone:

I like to call the Green Zone fun and safe places to consider for great healthy enjoyment. You don’t have to go to church every Friday night with your partner. There are many appropriate places for Christian dating.

Consider taking a leisurely walk in the park. This is the type setting that facilitates the conversation. No surround sound interruptions. No chat between strangers in the background. Just the two of you with a chance to get to know each other better. And you know how women love to talk!

And if you don’t like outdoor activities, consider an indoor activity like indoor golf. Enjoy a good cup of coffee or pastry in a cafeteria. Take a walk around the mall if you like to shop, that way you can give him some “hints or tips” as I like to call them.

There are plenty of other places where you don’t drink or hang out in clubs or casinos. Just because you’re an adult doesn’t automatically make everything okay or suitable for Christian dating.

The Red Zone:

The color red is used for many reasons and usually they are for warning signs like the stop sign. In this case, the Red zone they are for the places and situations you should consider avoiding.

While people think clubbing is harmless, I disagree. Having experienced that lifestyle on my own, I can tell you first hand that there is nothing that can help or improve your relationship. It is filled with drinking, smoking, vulgar music, and lewd dancing. And really ask yourself this. Why would you want to take your man to a place where women are on the prowl?

In fact, many will try to seduce him to your face. For obvious reasons, mark this as Red Zone status if it ever comes up in conversation. The same goes for bars, casinos, and anywhere else temptation will follow you out the door.

It’s safe to say that you can of course have a leisurely dinner, even if you’re accompanied by a smooth jazz band. But remember what your standards are. It’s much better to go straight home than to regret your engagement the next morning.

Always uphold the standard of purity and holiness in everything you do, including dating. That way, you’ll have a clear path to love, without lust taking over.

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